By Debra Trusela
Many years ago, as a new young Christian I was given the words Love Never Fails. I was newly married and raising my two sons from a previous unhealthy marriage and lifestyle. My first marriage was surrounded by drug dealing and addictions. My two boys paid the price for the bad choices their parents made. But I had escaped the plan of the evil one and found myself in a new life with my Savior, Jesus Christ. One of my favorite verses in those early years was,
There is therefore no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. (Romans 8:1)
After marrying my wonderful husband, Matthew, real life started to settle in. Matt traveled a lot which left me home and working as a single parent most of the time. During our new transition, our sons started to act out the dysfunction from their earlier years as they attempted to adapt to a stable environment.
At this time I reached out to our church and met with one of the pastors. He was a kind and gentle soul. As I began to pour my heart out in tears about my past and guilt for my boys, he said something that I have never forgotten. He looked me straight into my eyes and said, “Love never fails” (1 Corinthians 13:8). When he spoke those words, it was like God’s love poured over me and melted my heart. He said, “Go and do likewise.” That was the first time I experienced the power of God’s word and I’ve held on to that promise to this day.
Quickly, after we were married, I conceived our third son. He was truly a blessing and completed our family. This was my new beginning from the Lord.
Over the years, as my children grew, I learned to stand on God’s promises as part of my parenting. He has always been faithful, even when my children have gone astray. One of my favorite promises that got me through the teenage years and early adulthood was:
Thus says the Lord: “Keep your voice from weeping and your eyes from tears, for there is a reward for your work, declares the Lord, and they shall come back from the land of the enemy. There is hope for your future, declares the Lord, and your children shall come back to their own country” (Jeremiah 31:16-17).
Today my children range from ages 30-38. God has always proven that He is faithful to His Word! It will not return to Him void. What I had to learn as a parent was to go to my Heavenly Daddy and talk about all my concerns and worries when it came to my children. I had to read His Word so I could find promises to stand on until they passed. Some promises took years but I continued to stand on them, nonetheless. I am now reaping what I’ve sown with a close, healthy and spiritual relationship with all my sons. Our family has grown now so I am applying those same principles to the next generation.
One question I learned over the years to ask God when life seemed overwhelming or out of control was, “What do you want me to learn through this?”
I can say I am not the same person today that I was over 30 years ago when Matt and I married. I fought God for control many times as a parent, but I finally realized that He was the wisest parent and He would partner with me if I would just let Him! No matter what you’re going through or what cross you have to bear today, remember that He is faithful.